Things are not fantastic in the land of Stratford. Ok, as far as I am concerned, things are fine in the land of Stratford, except for the fact that I live with an insane person. In the insane persons world apparently, things are not fantastic and because he is insane, his problem has become my problem.
The economy as you know is in a bad way right now. Since our US brethrens economy directly impacts our own, ours in in the #$&@#* same as yours is. Me being the me that I am, prepared for this eventuality. I own outright two houses. No Mortgage's. I own all the vehicles. No car payments. I own all the business equipment. No lease payments. I have three freezers full of food. This is actually just a leftover from a childhood of having no food most of the time. It is a mental quirk, but it comes in handy. When I die, my sonwill be the beneficiary of a 1 million dollar life insurance policy. I do not need to leave him cash. He will also of course inherit the business, the houses, cars, quads, snowmobiles and any other assorted toys I have forgotten. I have enough money in the bank that if we were to actually retire right now, we could very easily live for the next 30 years as long as the insane person didn't do something like go buy a Lamborghini. So, what is the problem?
The problem is that the less work that comes in the more short tempered, antsy, downright foul my husband is becoming. Now, I get it that there has been a tremendous amount of pressure in this house over the last year. I got through major surgery, chemotherapy and a major heart attack so for the most part nobody was sure I was even going to be here on Christmas this year. I never doubted it, but I can see where it would be frightening. I understand that some people react to fear by becoming angry. I am one of those people so I totally get that too. I do not get the amount of insane that I am dealing with in respect to the no work right now thing. He has been having meltdowns since I got out of the hospital. My son actually had to remind him that the cardiologist said no stress. He tried to get it under control for a while. His personality dictates that he must vent however and I am even handier than usual being that I am supposed to just lay around and heal. Last night however it got to the point where I thought I might have to slap some sanity back into him.
We were discussing Christmas and the fact that I still had to get Sarah a couple of things. Out of nowhere in and response to nothing I said, he got up so fast he knocked the chair over (Seth can attest to the fact that these are by no means flimsily made kitchen chairs) so flipping one with his ass was no easy feat. He turned to me and screamed "&^#@*&^ cancel Christmas for &$#* sake, we can't afford ^&$!$*& Christmas. How much more !%$#@#@ money do you plan on spending for Christmas!!!!!" Yes it does need all those exclamation points to convey the smashing of his fist on the table and the foaming at the mouth that was going on as he screamed. I gave myself a moment to make sure I was not going to giggle or anything and then I asked him quite bluntly if he had lost his mind. "Have I lost my mind?" he screamed back at me, "if you haven't noticed you stupid *$#@! THERE IS NO WORK AND THEREFOR NO MONEY COMING IN!!. I nodded agreeably. I verbally confirmed that I was aware. He was actually looking at me like I was the crazy one. "WHAT PART OF THAT DO YOU NOT GET" he roared. I then shrugged, got up, got the bank statement and asked him if he remembered number placement from grade one. That little dot right there means we have 6 figures in the bank sweetie I tried soothingly. That would be dollars, not peso's. Speaking of Peso's, the American account is not reflected there. With that I assumed the conversation was finished and proceeded to walk away. I was mistaken. "WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THAT RUNS OUT, THEN WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO?" He was still screaming."How in the hell, barring you buying acouple of new Lamborghini's are we going to run out of money? Are you keeping a high paid call girl in a penthouse somewhere that I don't know about?" I questioned. "If you are let me know, I think I can get a deduction for that." He didn't see the humour. It did however take the wind out of his sails for a moment. long enough to clean up the spit that now dribbled down the corner of his mouth. I'll give him credit, he did try and bring the gallop of the crazy to a halt. He took a couple of big gulps of air and went a splashed some water on his face. He then came back out into the kitchen and sat back down.
"Ok, so what else do you think you are going to get?" He asked me once he was seated. I listed off the things I had thought of and told him What I expected it was going to cost. I bought her sister a freaking television along with about $400 worth of other assorted things. I thought it only fair that I do the same for her. While I do not particularly like either of them, I have made peace with the fact that no matter what they do to him, Chris is going to have them in his life. I usually get told that it is obvious that I spent next to nothing on them which is totally not true. I may dislike them, but they belong to someone that I love so I treat them accordingly. I have never cheaped out on any event with either of them. Anyway, once I told him that he went mental all over again and then I had to calm him down all over again. I was hoping he wasn't going to ask me what I had spent on Christopher to date, and then he asked me what I had spent on Christopher to date. While he was freaking out again something dawned on me. I let him rant for a few more minutes and then I beat his crazy horse into submission. "Ok, I have a solution. In order to cut costs because we are so very impoverished, I am making a decision as owner of the business. We will NOT BE HAVING A @#$#@^ CHRISTMAS PARTY THIS YEAR, HOWS THAT FOR SAVING SOME MONEY YOU &$$70!# ?" Wow, I didn't just stop the gallup of the crazy, I think I may have killed it. His mouth closed so fast his teeth clicked. Last year the Company Christmas party cost just north of $2000. I was expecting it to be a touch higher this year and bills to date seemed to confirm that it was indeed going to be the case.
At that moment my crazy husband realized that he had managed to do one of the only things guaranteed to make me ready to fight mad. He tried to take my sons happy. NOBODY gets to take my sons happy. Christopher is one of the most wonderful humans on the planet. Notbecause he is my son. Becausehe withoutprompting gives to charities every Christmas. He spends halfof the allowance he has saved for the past 30 weeks on theBlockbuster toy drive. He volunteers to help set up and serve forthe Thanksgiving dinner for thehomeless that my ex employer is still doing. He gives to the Children's Aid andstarting in January, he and I are going to be running the newBreakfast program at his School. He quietly because he didn't want to embarrass anyone,went to the kids he knew had very little for lunch time and surveyed for me to see how great the need was. I was correct in my assumption that it would be easier for the kids to talk to another kid, not an adult. I would have let someone poke out my eyes with a butter knife before I ever admitted there was anything wrong at home when I was akid. My son totes an extra Sandwich and apple to school every day just in case. Sometimes they are gone, sometimes they aren't gone. If it were up to my son, half of the gifts I get him would go to charity. Since he is a precious beautiful thing, if I want tospend some money on him at Christmas time, I damn well will. If I want to buy him a Lamborghini for Christmas I damn well will. Knowing that he had indeed just crossed a very serious line, Chris did the only thing he could do. He backed the hell up. Sorry, sorry, sorry I don't know what's wrong with me utterances along with an attempt at hugging me. So bottom line is we don't mess with my happy and I don't mess with the Christmas party.
Hope everyone is well. Also, HOPE EVERONE SENDS ME THEIR ADDRESSES SOON SO I CAN SPREAD THE HAPPY SOME MORE. :lol:
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